Improve Performance Through Effective Feedback
Executive coach and author Marshall Goldsmith wrote, “Feedback is a gift that only other can give.”So, if feedback is a gift, why do so manyof usstruggle with giving and receiving it?
A lot of it has to do with power. If we give feedback to someone, our motive may actually be to control them. Our resistance to receiving feedback is possibly a resistance to change.
Before handing out feedback, it can be helpful to clarify the reason for it. Below are the five most common types of feedback and suggestions for giving each type.
Evaluation Feedback:
Evaluation Feedback is the most common that you will find in the workplace. Unfortunately, it is also the kind that is the least helpful. The timeframe at which evaluation feedback comes is always at the end. When the performance year is over. At the end of a class that took a week. Once a project has been completed. True, we all need to be willing to rate ourselves, and the evaluation feedback will improve our performance next time. But why not give and get feedback when we can learn from it real time?
Real-Time Performance Feedback:
This type of feedback generally comes from a boss or someone whose own success depends on you. While it may be couched as an observation or something for you to think about, when someone shares performance feedback, they intend for you to change your behavior.
When you sense that someone is trying to give performance feedback, it may help you both to get very clear. Try asking, “what exactly would you like me to stop or start doing?”Once you’ve gotten the feedback, make the change!
Fine-Tuning:
With this type of feedback, you generally are hearing from someone who is very satisfied with the job you are doing, but see some areas where you can improve even more. One of the best examples I can give of fine-tuning feedback came from someone who participated in a course I gave. She asked me if she could share some feedback after she told me how much she had enjoyed the course. She explained that my nodding my head while she and other participants were talking made her feel as though I was rushing them. WOW! I had no idea that my head nodding was having this effect on the audience, so her feedback blew me away.
Fine-tuning feedback is most effective when you share the impact a behavior has on you or on other people. The person who is giving you feedback doesn’t want to change you or even to control you in some way. The person receiving the feedback has the chance to decide whether to change or not change, the person giving the feedback is merely sharing how they are impacted.
Feed-Forward:
Goldsmith came up with this one years ago. It involves making suggestions before, rather than waiting for them to fail at something and giving negative feedback later. For example, my husband had a presentation to give to the executive leadership committee at work, which was the first time he ever did anything like that. Before the presentation, his boss coached him on how much detail to include in his presentation, what he should wear, when he was expected to speak and more.
Slap Upside the Head:
Two years ago, a colleague who is also a great friend sat me down and said, “You are making yourself and others miserable. What’s the deal?”
Only very good friends can give slap upside the head feedback. It involves personal feedback that people share out of concern and caring. In his book, Who’s Got Your Back, Keith Ferrazzi gives some great examples of this feedback along with the assertion that we all desperately need people in our lives who care enough to give it.
Slap upside the head feedback is not given with the intent of controlling or even changing for the sake of the person giving the feedback. The feedback is given because they understand your personal goals and see how your behavior is keeping you from reaching those goals.
Summary
Feedback Givers: Before you give feedback, think through your intention and the type of feedback that fits best.Remember that if you are not in a position of authority, evaluation feedback is not appropriate.You can lead a horse to water . . .
Feedback Receivers:We all suffer from a lack of self-awareness at times and feedback is the only way we can learn what our blind spots are. Even when you don’t agree with it, view feedback as a gift. If it’s evaluation or performance feedback, you have a chance to change in order to do better in the eyes of others.If it’s fine-tuning or slap upside the head feedback, you have the choice to change or not.
Wendy Mack is a advisor, speaker, and change catalyst who has a passion for helping leaders mobilize energy for change, To get more articles and resources on leading and communicating change visit: www.WendyMack.com